Last night I was hosting a party and while I was getting my things and getting out of the car a guy rides up next to me in a beautiful convertible 6 series BMW. The kind of car that you simply cannot miss. I saw the car and did an internal "OOH" and continued on gathering my things to go into the party. While I was finishing up, the guy opens and closes the convertible top on the car while talking loud on his cell phone about his "business deals." He gives me a quick "hi" and I say hi back, but I keep it moving into the event that I am already running a bit late for.
While in the party the guy finds me and keeps saying "hi." It is awkward because I have already said hi to him and I am wondering --- are you at a loss for words or is this really all the game that you have? I have been married for a while now; so maybe I am not quite as patient with men when they are trying to get their game up. I want to scream so bad "dude what is it that you want!?!?"
On my way out after the event I am talking to the security guard at the door about an intricate tattoo that he has on his arm. My brother loves tattoos so whenever I see someone with some great ink I love to ask about where they got it done and why. While talking to the security guard, BMW dude says "hi" yet again. By now I have tired of him and I just nod and keep on with my conversation about tattoos with security.
Why did I hear BMW guy say to his friend --- "she talking to security. Did she see what I pulled up in?" Really dude!?! Maybe for some women your ability to spread out the payments on an expensive car and push a button to raise and lower the top is enough to have them fawn over you, but I tend to be drawn to people that are interesting. Dude was not interesting. He was a jerk.
Is having expensive things really enough to get a woman's attention? Are we losing the ability to really flirt because of social media and cell phones?
Thoughts???
LaDawn Black is a relationship expert, author and media personality. Cocoa Mommalicious is her forum for sharing tales from the mommy lines, love lines and life lines. For more information visit www.ladawnblack.com .
Society today runs on materialistic image. Women that responds to the ignorance us what keeps it going and its a shame. Everyone loves to have nice things but it doesn't make the person
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ReplyDeleteI agree that we as women to a certain degree have trained men to put what they have ahead of who they are. I think both men and women need to learn to look deeper. Thanks for commenting!!!