Ray J has had a sorted run when it comes to love: sex tape, redemption, older woman love and now .... possible pariah. Ray J was the last man in Whitney's life before she died. Apparently, there was some background drama at the Billboard Awards the other night when Whitney Houston's family wanted his seat moved away from them. Ray J does not appear to be well liked by the Houston family.
This is not anything new. All of us can look back and see instances where our pick in love was not necessarily the pick of our family. I remember dating a guy and he was bold enough ask my parents "did they not like him?" My mom quickly interjected "No we do not" and left the room to go back to washing her dishes. I tried for nearly two years to get them to see him the same way I did and they never did and the truth is that after nearly two years together and much drama I saw what my parents saw all along and I grew to not like him either.
So what do you do when your family clearly hates the person that you are seeing?? Keep these three things in mind:
Are They Telling the Truth?
You have to be mature and see if the things that the family is pointing out are true. Love can sometimes cloud your judgement and your family can at times see your lover far more clearly than you. If there are concrete reasons why your family is concerned, then maybe it is time to be receptive to what your family is saying and make some hard decisions.
Is Your Lover Trying to Get You Away from Your Family?
One clear sign of someone who may be up to no good is when they try to get you away from people who have always been in your corner. This is a sign that the person wants to control you and they are aware that your family sees the real deal and they want you to be shielded from this reality. If you are alone then you are easy to manipulate and you only have the manipulator to rely on.
Be Honest About State of Love
In the end only the two people in the relationship know what is truly going on so you have to put on your big girl/guy pants and assess your love. If the relationship is working for you and people are simply hating for their own personal reasons, then keep doing you. However, if when you close your eyes at night you see some of the things that your family continues to point out to you and secretly you think they may have a point then don't run away from their disdain --- embrace it as a warning sign that things can get much worse and it is time to get out now!
LaDawn Black is a relationship expert, author and media personality. Cocoa Mommalicious is her forum for sharing tales from the mommy lines, love lines and life lines. For more information visit www.ladawnblack.com .
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