I Am Not Your B*%ch!

The Love and Hip Hop Atlanta reunion was pretty much about nothing.  No new revelations and definitely no healing or resolutions for the characters.  However, the thing that kept agitating the mess out of me was a stage full of women calling one another bitches and even calling themselves bitches.  When did the word bitch become okay?  When did it become flattering?  When did it replace the words independent, smart, aggressive, opinionated and focused?  Do we realize how foolish we look as women to men when we do not even blink at being called a bitch?

Now I know there is this whole belief that words only have power if you give them power and that if we claim the word and run with it it no longer holds power over us. Um, no --- we have tried this for decades with the "N" word and I am sorry it has not taken away the sting, the meaning or the plain ignorant way we as black people look using it casually with one another.  Words have power and words have meaning and you cannot dumb something down that at its core is meant to make you feel less than.

So no thanks to the trend of women calling each other bitches in a spiteful way, loving way or in a playful way --- I am taking a pass on that one.  That is not a word that places a woman in a positive light and I am not giving anyone permission to feel that it is a word that you can easily apply to me.  You will just have to step your dictionary/ thesaurus game up!

LaDawn Black is a relationship expert, author and media personality. Cocoa Mommalicious is her forum for sharing tales from the mommy lines, love lines and life lines. For more information visit www.ladawnblack.com .

Bravo Morgan!

 

 

My guilty pleasure television show is definitely Single Ladies on VH1.  I didn't watch the first season because the mix of the bad acting from Stacey Dash and Lisa Raye would have made my head explode, but with Stacey gone and Denise Vasi on board (I think she is soooo a breath of fresh air) I am loving the show this year.  Personally, I feel it is much closer to the fun and fabulousness of Sex in the City than Girlfriends was and the show definitely seems to have a strong base on which to grow.

 

 

The biggest reason that I am loving the show this season is --- Cassandra Freeman as Morgan.  Finally, we have a show that dares to add a beautiful, sexy and intelligent brown sista with your typical light skin light eye TV babes and she more than holds her own.  Often on these shows, the brown girl is overweight, not quite as pretty or so hood that you can't see the pretty and it simply is not fair. Bravo to the Single Ladies team for recognizing black beauty in all its forms and giving us a beauty that is real -- that can give the other ladies some real hotness competition.  Black women come in many beautiful shades and Single Ladies is getting it right!!!!

 

 

ps - I am team Sean.  What was Keisha thinking?

 

 

LaDawn Black is a relationship expert, author and media personality. Cocoa Mommalicious is her forum for sharing tales from the mommy lines, love lines and life lines. For more information visit www.ladawnblack.com .